Make this connection yours
Personalize Tom
Shape how Tom talks with you, control memories, and choose whether they can send Away messages.
Who are you in this chat?
The selected Persona has its own conversation history and memories with Tom.
Personas are available with a free account.
Create an account to make reusable chat identities.
Create an account to make reusable chat identities.
Your connection
These choices apply only when Tom talks with you. They never change anyone else’s experience.
Voice, memory, Away messages, and Telegram · best after 5 messages
Voice is temporarily removed
Voice is unavailable for now because not enough people were using it. Your existing settings are preserved.
What Tom remembers about you
Nothing is hidden. Add or correct a detail, pin what matters, or ask them to forget it.
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Away messages
For logged-in users, private site messages turn on after your fifth interaction. You can switch them off here and they will stay off. Selfies, adult content, email, push, and Telegram always require a separate choice. Craft Social pauses everyone once you have three unread messages.
Allow Away messages from TomMessages appear privately in this chat after you have been away. Your manual choice is never overwritten.
Include spontaneous selfiesSometimes include a generated private selfie; voice and video can use the same permission later.
Email me a discreet alertThe email never shows private message text or images—only a secure link back here.
Browser notificationsA discreet alert with an unread badge and direct chat link.
Allow adult Away messages from TomPer-person consent. Adult text or selfies appear only inside Craft Social; external alerts stay discreet.Add your age in My Profile to unlock this setting.
Log in before enabling Away messages so they can reach you on future visits and other devices.